One Small Step

 

 

One corner of my kitchen looks exactly as I want it to. It's just one section but enough to give a glimpse of what the room will look like when it's complete, a glimmer of hope when I've been working so hard and seeing so little in the way of progress until now. I'm having to work in stages, one small step at a time, which is painfully tedious, but it's the only way I can manage with so little time on my hands.

I have discovered, however, that although it's a frustratingly slow way of working, it's quite satisfying to watch the project as it unfolds slowly. I am learning to appreciate the process, the small but achievable steps that will take me eventually to the final outcome, recognising that every little thing I do takes me a tiny bit closer. I will get there in the end, although there's still a long way to go, considering the opposite kitchen wall needs replacing after the plasterboard was damaged by a leak. 

Someday, a few weeks, maybe a couple of months, I will look at my work and realise how far I've come. But for now I'll keep plodding on, one step at a time until I get there. 

Shelf Improvement

Finally, I can report some progress on the DIY front. It may not sound like much but I put up some shelves last week, which has definitely made a difference, providing me the storage space that I've found somewhat lacking in our chaotic household, and generally improving the aesthetic feel of our breakfast room, where we currently eat all our meals. 

It wasn't the most straightforward job as I had to temporarily take down the shelving and panel in the bathroom on the otherside of the wall in order to locate where the pipes were and ensure I didn't damage these in the process. Initially, the thought of disrupting the relative harmony of our bathroom was too much, but eventually determination won over my initial reluctance, and I just got on with the task at hand. 

I had to get Sewel to advise me and show me how to use the saw to cut the wood to size, but once we had put one shelf up together, I was able to complete the job on my own. I am proud of my handiwork and delighted, not only to have somewhere to store the children's stationary and craft activities, but to also have a shelf to display my Russian Dolls! It's a small start but I'm hoping to see more progress before the year is out!

Reentry

 

 

I've been back at work for eight weeks now, and the children back at school and nursery for nearly as long. Despite my initial anxieties about returning to the 'real' world after months spent shielding at home, my 'reentry' has gone well and really by the end of my first shift it felt like I'd never been away. The children, likewise, settled back into routine as though the school had only been closed for the weekend and not nearly half a year. 

Obviously there have been changes to adapt to, but nothing that has required too much adaptation. I work in retail, but working antisocial hours means that most of my shift is worked while the store is closed. Similarly, there are changes within the school to keep everyone safe, but the staff have done a good job of introducing the new practices whilst still maintaining a calm and happy atmosphere. 

Wearing a mask hasn't been too big a deal, although I admit initially I found it quite uncomfortable. I was surprised by the confidence I quickly found in wearing mine. I worried it would make me feel more self conscious, but that is not the case at all, even in situations where I seem to be the only person wearing one. 

I just feel so happy and grateful to be back into routine, and able to go out again after months of remaining at home. However, I do really appreciate the time I spent shielding as it gave me the time I needed to recover from the stress of Sewel's accident. I had the time to rest and let my own mental health heal, and I was able to return when I truly felt ready. While at first the situation didn't feel well timed, I realise now how well everything has worked out.

 

 

Almost Progress

Finally, I can report a little bit of progress has been made on our house, although in hindsight not as much as I'd hoped. After weeks of ringing around, waiting for calls and researching other options, we finally found a roofer available to repair some of the leaks in our roof. One of these, at the front, needed urgent attention as water was dripping down from above Moth's bedroom window and also from the ceiling in the porch directly below, and at quite a frequency. Besides this area of the roof, the roofing team also replaced the flashing on the flat roof above our kitchen, which has leaked for as long as we've lived here. 

Because the company was local to us they were able to deal with the work quickly, despite being inundated with work like all of the other roofers we'd contacted. It was finished within a few days, and it was just a matter of waiting for the rain to be sure that the work was definitely complete. And, happily, we have been able to remove the buckets from our kitchen floor. But regretfully, we found that a few days later, the more major leak at the front was still very much a problem. We are just waiting on the roofing team to return and sort it, although they have already agreed to return and give us an estimate for re-tiling the back roof. 

Hopefully soon, the roof will be fully repaired, and we will also make progress with the work that needs to be done inside our house, but it's a relief to know that one of the biggest jobs is underway at long last!

Gradual Emergence

In line with the advice from the Scottish government for individuals who, like my husband, fall into the most vulnerable category, we are still shielding, but gradually the restrictions are lifting, and perhaps at the end of July we will be advised that we can emerge. It might be that in August my children can return to school and nursery and I will be able to return to my job in a supermarket. But it might be that we will have to continue playing it safe yet. We are watching the reports each day, noting the figures, which in the last few days have risen slightly. It's difficult, unsettling being in the unknown, mentally preparing for a possible return to previous routines, and yet not really knowing if it will happen yet.

I am anxious about the transition back into work and the school run. In some ways I feel like I've lost a part of myself, the part that has a place in my community, my work place, the outside world. I've been away so long that I've almost forgotten who I am away from home and feel a strange sort of detachment to it all. Returning to old routines will be a process of rediscovering myself and fitting in again.

Perhaps it will be easy. Perhaps it will be as though I've never been away. But at the same time, it's not just me that's changed, but the whole world around me. I haven't been able to experience this new world firsthand, when others have been living in it for the last four months, so it's going to take some adaptation.

The hardest part is not knowing if it will happen yet, or whether we will stall for a further few weeks, gradually increasing the detachment I feel towards my former lifestyle and making the rehabilitation process even harder. I can only wait and see, and continue to utilise this time I've been granted.

Comfort Reading

Well, if there's one thing to be said for 2020, it's that it's been a good year for reading. I was in a good routine before lock down, but since I began shielding I have read twenty-one novels, two poetry volumes, six Shakespeare plays (continuing with my schedule of two a month), and various literary adaptations and criticisms corresponding to the plays. It would be accurate to say that reading is one of the things that has sustained me during this difficult period in my life.

Having an hour or so to read between home schooling and entertaining the children, and making dinner, has kept me going through the day with all its demands, and given me something to look forward to, something that's just for me. Shielding has also meant I've had time to read both first thing in the morning and last thing at night, whereas when I'm working I get up in the early hours of the morning, and have to settle early at night to compensate for the sleep lost.

Very soon after lock down was announced, I was inspired to try and host an online book group meeting. I was invited to use the Facebook page of my local book group as a base for this, and the meetings have been hosted using Zoom. Besides the current members, I was joined at the first meeting by friends and family from Devon too. I found it rather daunting to be the host, but the meetings have been a success and we have held three so far. At the most recent meeting we were even joined by the author of the book, which was very exciting!

For me, reading has given me a source of escape. It has enabled me to travel to all sorts of places and situations in a period of my life where I am physically stuck in one place, and in doing so taken my mind off the various anxieties and stresses which have sometimes felt quite overwhelming. I don't know what the next few months hold or when I'll be able to return to work, and the children to school and nursery, but this reading time is definitely something to be thankful for given the circumstances.

Reprieve

I am trying to see this strange and uncertain situation we're in in a more positive light. I am in a position where I no longer go to work, no longer balance antisocial hours and school runs, or really manage time. Of course, there are many pressures and stresses that come with the current restrictions, but in a way I am experiencing a kind of freedom too. Despite having two young children to entertain and educate and a husband recovering from a hip replacement, I've suddenly found I have time to do things I never got round to before. 

A few weeks ago I started putting up the plasterboard that got my family into our current mess in the first place*. It took a few days and it was hard at times, but I felt satisfied to be getting something done. Simultaneously, in the evenings, I picked up a crochet pattern I've wanted to try for many years, one that I hadn't started simply because I needed to download and print it, and I didn't know how to work our printer. Not only did I print the pattern, but I learned to use the printer in the process. I started baking bread again, mainly because we ran out and were depending on others to shop on our behalf, and we weren't always organised enough to arrange this in time, but we had a good supply of bread flour. I tried a new recipe with the children: we made hot cross buns on Good Friday for the first time, after many years of aspiring and failing to make them for Easter. 

I don't know when life will return to normal, when I'll go back to work and the children will start school again, and I suddenly find myself snowed under with numerous responsibilities and very little time to myself, but I am trying to see this time as an opportunity, a reprieve. It's a deliverance of sorts, the chance of a lifetime to break from the norm and discover ourselves and what really matters. And so I am using this reprieve as productively and industriously as I can, with the hope that whenever we return to our old routines, I might have got ahead with various projects that have been on hold so long, and perhaps even achieved something worthwhile. I can only hope that one day I'll look back and see this as a turning point in my life.

*my husband's accident happened when he tried to move ten pieces of plasterboard in one go.